What's Your Why in Life

What’s your Why in Life?
~ Remrie Arrie

When you do something, there is a reason for it whether conscious or sub conscious, the brain is a processing machine that devotes much of its entire potential to responding to events/stimulus’s that occur. Touch something hot, jerk away, and probably yell – that’s a subconscious response. You’re driving and a light turns red you stop – that’s a conscious response. Sometimes we do things that are so automatically we think it’s subconscious because we don’t have to think about it, if you’re asleep behind the wheel you’re not going to stop, but if your asleep on the couch and your “friend” decides to touch you with a hot skillet you bet you’re going to react.

When we live our lives we need to be conscious of why we do things, at every age, no matter what we’re doing; we need to be conscious of ‘why’. Why are you working at the job we’re at? Why are you starting your own company? Why are you at school? Why are you playing video games? Why are you watching TV? Why are you trying to succeed in life? Why are you reading this post by me?

Here are starter questions to ask why, ask more if you can think of them.
(Questions taken from Success in 10 Steps by Michael Dlouhy since he asks great questions)
- What gets you REALLY excited?
- How many hours a week do you work?
- What do you LOVE about your job?
- What do you HATE about your job?
- What do you do with your free time?
- If you had two months vacation and all the money you wanted what would you do?
- How do you like the people you work with?
- What problem scares you to death that more money could solve?
- What do you just absolutely HATE about your life that more money could solve?
- If you had all the money you needed, what huge problem would go away?
- If you had all the time in the world to do anything you wanted, what would you do?
- Other than money, what are you looking for?
- What does your family mean to you?
- What do you want for your own personal growth?
- What do you want to accomplish in your lifetime?
- What scares you to death?
- What would it mean to you to help others change their lives?
- What really excites you in life?
- What really makes you angry about life?
- What would you like to give the people you love the most?
- What really, really gets you emotional?


Why is just the first part of knowing what you’re doing and to understand yourself, once you know why you should ask yourself “How is what I am doing now contributing to why I want to do this?”

If you’re watching TV 10 hours per day you need to ask “How is watching 10 hours of TV contributing to what I want to do?”

But not just things we do but also, our peers (parents, teachers, bosses, co-workers, friends, family, etc), our habits, our location, our environment. If we want to get the most out of what we’re doing we must know ‘Why’ we’re doing it, a specific reason, if that reason isn’t in line with your beliefs you must take steps to change it.

Why am I in school?“Because I am forced to by my parents.” If this isn’t in line with your beliefs then change it, talk to people, find out solutions and create your own why rather than their why.
“Because I want to learn as much as I can about _______ so I can be successful at what I want to do in life.” And so on. Once you have your why ask yourself how your actions get you closer to your goals/whys.

Also write out your 3 biggest reasons you MUST be successful. Try to put them in order if you can otherwise no worries.

Reasons:
1.
2.
3.

And as Steve Chandler would say, get on your death bed.

If you ever want to be motivated in life, fear your soon and eminent death and what would happen if you suddenly know you were going to die in a short time. There’s a person noted in 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself by Steve Chandler who was told he was going to die in one year. So the guy defined his reasons to succeed and made it a priority in his remaining life to sit down and write stories, he wasn’t a writer before hand, this was just something on his things-to-do list, by the end he had written 4 novels, and you know what? He didn’t die, he went on to write at least 12 more.


There is also a successful Carnegie Mellon University instructor who is diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and is given 6-8 months to live or so, and in this time I've seen two videos at universities of him speaking about certain subjects and he uses himself as a prime example of when you have less time than you really think, and he's only in his late forties early fifties. Contact me I'll show you his stuff.


Even if you don’t end up dying, at least you will have started and created the momentum rather than put it off for tomorrow. We’re all guilty of procrastination so don’t beat yourself up; learn to become efficient in your actions and progress.

Become more efficient by focusing on each reason you must be successful and create habits that support each one. If your reasons are:

To be healthy (make habits to only eat healthy foods and do healthy things)
To be happy (make habits to appreciate the day, others, listen to happy songs, etc)
To be wealthy (make habits to become financially literate, learn investing, be independent of employers, etc)