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Thursday, April 9, 2009

My List of Whys

My list of Whys (Why it is I want to do what dream of and/or do)

- What gets you REALLY excited?
Experiencing every extreme of the world in a active, not passive, way. And always doing something new and pushing the envelope of what I have done before. In this moment I am happy no matter what.

This pushing the limits of my body through martial arts, thrill seeking, sky diving, base jumping, gliding, racing, climbing, anything I can do to get on the edge. If I can sink my teeth into it I want to GO!

- How many hours a week do you work?
Inconsistent, depends on what you call work and why that work is done. As a student, school is the closest example where I would spend upwards of 50 hours per week for months on end on average from 7am – 4pm every day of the week including holidays (Xmas, thanksgiving) and natural disasters. (Yes it’s legal and there is a good reason why the school is like that.)

- What do you LOVE about your job?
What I love about my job(s) is that they are always relevant to my interests. I don’t have one at the moment but either through immediate or delayed gratification in some way shape or form they contribute to what I take interest in. I don’t care about money.

These jobs are generally animal related, but I might take up stunt work as well and teaching/education/mentoring/coaching independently. The more free form what I do is, the more I love it.

- What do you HATE about your job?
Except for one job I’ve never HATED something about a particular job. That one job was mainly due to the political/social system that made up the relationships between employees and I was one of them, it wasn’t working out in our best interests due to select individuals.

- What do you do with your free time?
What I used to do up until 8/20/07: Play videogames, watch TV, chat on internet discussion boards, procrastinate, waste money on novelty items, shun and hide away from people, worry about the present, wish things were better, -hoped- something happened for me, and feared being independent and proactive.

What I do now since 8/20/07: Spend much of my time focused on personal development, mental development, emotional development, ethic/moral development, financial development and more. Contributing to the success of other people to help them get out of places like I was. Gather and collect resources to freely distribute to others so they can succeed in the same way I have/will-continue if they have the motivation. Keep my mind stimulated and focused on doing new things and progressing myself as far as humanly possible in my situation under my circumstances.






- If you had two months vacation and all the money you wanted what would you do?
Experiment to see what could be done in terms of what I believe should be done with my life for others rather than novelty desires. Of course it varies depending on circumstances, situations, and what my ‘work’ is in the present. If what I was doing was related to my current goals I’d take my break and do them more in depth personally on a more involved scale. For instance if I was the president of Petco/PetSmart I’d spend the 2 months washing dogs for fun.

If the situation didn’t fit that possibility I’d likely spend 1 month in two different locations of my choice to learn about that aspect of the world and what it has to offer, who the people and cultures are, etc.

If either of those didn’t suffice I’d learn sky diving, do it the entire two months several days per week and learn different ways with wing suits, etc and pick up base jumping and wing suit base jumping in the Norwegian cliffs etc in the 2nd month if time permits.
http://tinyurl.com/fly-into-infinity

Or get down to work on my own projects and hire all the professionals I can to educate me and show me what to do/how to do it; i.e. real estate investing, stock/option trading, building sustainable (not profit driven) businesses, etc.

And more.

- How do you like the people you work with?
Generally in most instances I don’t have a direct problem with any one individual I work with. The more I can feed off of them the better because then their actions, words, and mere presence is enough to spark my imagination and motivation and drive. If I have problems with people I work with I quickly do what I can to come to a solution with minimal conflict even if at my own costs. Such my last job I quit because couldn’t work in the social environment with the other girls because one or more of them just raised so much hell it was impossible to deal with. I wasn’t making progress I wanted, it wasn’t sustainable, terms and conditions were undesireable, when gas was $4.00+ it sure as hell wasn’t worth the 40 mile round trip (50 minute drive each way) when I enjoyed reading “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill on the job more than working there.

In retrospect if I ever build companies and see a employee reading such a book voluntarily on the job there is no way I can’t give them the opportunity to apply it and themselves in a way to give them the success and potential they deserve when other people their age are partying, working dead end jobs, paying student loans, etc.

- What problem scares you to death that more money could solve?
Being alone, no affection, no attention, no touch.
Everyone comes and goes in less than a year and nobody sticks around with me consistently. With that not achieving my goals/dreams and not being able to be a role model to others. Without a sense self worth the money is useless anyways, it only makes it easier to do the things that will give me more self worth.



- What do you just absolutely HATE about your life that more money could solve?
Not having a feminine/female body. Being transgender, I have to spend $3,000 per year on my hormones and even with insurance would have to pay for both genital surgery and breast implants because any/little breast tissue I do have is next to non existent.

Being forced to depend on working for income, if I had enough money to put into secure investments such as real estate to grow my income through sustainable means I would, only would any leftovers be re-invested and/or used for something else. I only make $2,400 per year (note the hormones I need just to be female are $3,000 per year)

Having the fear in the back of my mind that if something happens to me there is no way to pay or cover it. I’ve never lived a day of my life with any form of insurance and I’m 22.

And personally I hate depending on my father because he does too much for me.

- If you had all the money you needed, what huge problem would go away?
All my main personal/immediate concerns would all be solved virtually instantaneously. I would solve the more important things to me first before ever wasting anything on novelty stuff. Also if I had such theoretical ample amounts of money I could get started on Interactive Dreams www.InteractiveDreams.org and anything related to it or create the infrastructure needed to sustain it all without the worry that if I make a mistake I’ll be a million dollars in debt.

- If you had all the time in the world to do anything you wanted, what would you do?
Theoretically speaking, with the time and resources I’d do what I could to improve the fundamental standards of living development that we all need (Education, support, trust, mentors, programs, assistance, encouragement, resources, etc). If it were possible to never die I’d probably do that exact thing in some way shape or form for all eternity; because if life is worth living then it’s not worth dying.

- Other than money, what are you looking for?
I’m not even looking for money in all honesty I hate it and personally resent it for various reasons. What I want are resources and individuals to work with who can and will do more to make things happen that I can really sink my teeth into and have the motivation to work with them. Many people are at or below the same step I am and are hard to idolize, the people better than me tend to be more difficult to find and/or connect with and get REAL help from, generally just opinions or ideas without really getting involved. The one real estate coach I had was awesome for this for the 3 months we were together but I got transferred over to phase two of the coaching program working with 50 other coaches on the ‘resource line’ and it feels like I’m calling flipping tech support for real estate.

Because I sometimes tend to be smarter than computer and/or other tech support and end up correcting them and/or telling them what to do it makes it hard for me to feel impressed and motivated to work with such a ‘resource line’ when it’s inconvenient, inconsistent, little/no relationships, etc.

If I can sink my teeth into a solid plan of action from there I’ll commit to it until each stage is finished no matter what. That’s why I did so well in phase 1 of real estate coaching, but phase two I can’t sink my teeth into because it’s the exact same stuff I’ve been doing on my own for a year before then… Learning on my own, at my own pace, alone and lonely.


- What does your family mean to you?
Nothing.
I drove 2,000 miles from central Illinois to Los Angeles for two reasons, to get my life back on track and to get away from my family forever even at the cost of being homeless living in my truck.

My dad is the only blood relative I care about personally, only 2 other people out of a fairly large family are considered ‘decent’ in my personal opinion.

Here in California however I have made friends with new people so much that I have actually been hypothetically adopted into their family as another child despite being 21 at the time and 2 years older than their oldest child who I was friends with even though I am transgender. Even when by mistake out of my attempt to take care of my friend (their daughter) I royally pissed off both parents. And I was pretty much mortified when it happened and things were the same way for a month with them as it was for me and my entire family for my entire life.

My unofficial family though, means a lot to me, next to everything they probably make up at least 1/3 of my entire foundation of life and without any one of those thirds the others can’t sustain. That’s why I try so hard to do so much for others because I’m always scared I might lose that foundation.

- What do you want for your own personal growth?
I want to reach a point where people can really look up to me for help, honesty, and support, much of all the reasons why that make Oprah so beloved by so many people. Not for the purpose that I will be loved, but to know that I am of use to them and make all the difference in their life. And hopefully inspire them to be as such on their own individual level for others.

- What do you want to accomplish in your lifetime?
It might be simpler just to say I want to save the world.
I want to build up Interactive Dreams into a fully sustainable company not profit driven that always has ample amounts of cash reserves to provide exceptional job care for it’s employees above and beyond all others and develop programs and resources needed for the public and individuals both personally and professionally to help them better achieve their needs and goals. But unlike programs that charge thousands upfront, I would want such services to be as cost effective as possible up front, if not free and only bill them if they achieve their success. Because if people spend half their savings on making their dreams come true just to fail and have half of their entire resources then that company did not fulfill their moral obligation to those people.

And I want it to be started and heavily focused in areas of fundamental development for youth both in normal schools, but more so in the special education ‘alternative’ schools for students with ‘special needs’ such as the one I came from. My school in particular of 50 students (grades 7-12), two hallways 7 classrooms out of all the people at the school I knew many dropped out, 1 ended up back in prison, I myself was arrested 4 times in my freshman year and sent to juvenile hall, and 3 students had committed suicide . Yet I know 100% without a doubt all those kids have more potential in them than any person, but nobody gives them the credit, the support, the resources, the information, the freedom, the flexibility, the care, nothing.

- What scares you to death?
Being forced to live as a male; I was a guy for the first 20 years of my life fortunately it’s not something I have to worry about but if I lose all my income and money there will be no way to pay for my hormones.

Losing my greatest friend ever who is also my roommate, coworker, and hopefully future lover; I never want to leave her side, I almost lost her and never knew it. To know I can’t hug her when I need one would devastate me. I’ve been friends with her for 2 years now and even though we aren’t lovers and don’t really have any set plans, theoretically we don’t plan on ever leaving each other’s side in any venture we choose.

Being alone

Losing my hair or having it chopped off (stupid yes but it has provided me with more comfort than any family member I had, and I’ve lost it on 2 occasion)

Coffee, refried beans, mint, and white pepper.

- What would it mean to you to help others change their lives?
It would mean everything in the world to me to know that I’ve not only acted as the catalyst for a positive change in their life, but also to get them to also spark such change in others they have influence over for the better like I helped them. That’s the entire purpose of Interactive Dreams (Interactive Education, and Interactive Environment)

Even now despite not having reached my own defined level of minimal success (having all of my basic needs met estimated at $50k annual,) I have provides so much service to others that has meant so much to them that they have honestly told me that they could never repay me for all the kindness and help I’ve given them. That is because of my own life statement “The only reason I am the way I am is to be better than anyone has ever been to me” meaning that if someone is mean to me I am nice to them, if they are nice to me I am nicer to them the nicer and more helpful someone is to me, the nicer and more helpful I’ll be to them.

- What really excites you in life?
http://tinyurl.com/fly-into-infinity
http://tinyurl.com/fast-hyabusa
http://tinyurl.com/karatevoodoo
http://tinyurl.com/Xbox-Commercial
http://tinyurl.com/Vujicic

Novelty things are great, I’m all for swimming in key west, learning water sports, relaxing on islands, in woods, near rivers and streams and ponds and creaks… Simply put I like being alive, and to do something as great as anything in those videos linked in blue above are things that make you feel like you have no limits. Besides if you have literally jumped off a cliff and lived your dream of flying without an airplane that gives you that much more creativity and experience to use in how you live and teach others.


- What really makes you angry about life?
Being subject to, and watching others being subject to the inconsistency and lack of basic fundamentals in extremely important developmental systems that are supposed to exist for the purpose of individual development.

It seems the people taking the greatest strides are the people with the smallest client base when it comes to education, training, coaching, mentoring, assisting, motivating, developing, etc. Exceptional individuals seem to be the only ones creating solid programs that are designed and actually functional and practical in developing basic human needs.

My dad, greatest man in my life raised two kids by himself and went to college to get a PhD in a major university, the university had a change of management/policies during his time there after he had completed his final thesis and other things and it was not accepted by the university under the terms that it had to fit the NEW interests of the administration. So rather than collect the PhD he worked so hard for he settled for a double Masters degree, a masters in two different fields and went on to try to become a teacher. The only school that would hire him was 1,500 miles away in Arizona when I was 10 and me and my sister hated it there so he willingly quit his job, but for the next 5+ years he was unable to get a full time teaching job anywhere at any grade level despite being qualified to teach 16 different subjects most at college level. At best he was only a substitute teacher. No school hired him because he was ‘too expensive’ and the schools had stupid ‘bean counter’ accountants on the school business team who would suggest that they didn’t hire my dad or people like him because of the costs involved. In the end the accountants made alternative decisions that looked liked more economical choices but end up costing more in the long run and HUGELY demeaning the quality of education.

What’s my dad doing now? He’s truck driving, and it’s paying more than teaching does. Go figure.

I myself have been subject to being victimized by such a failing school system that failed to meet a single developmental need in my life. Typing, reading, finances, investing, motivation, life, etc all that I’ve taught myself. In the past 1.5 years of my life since August 20 2007 I have taught myself more valuable information than middle and high-school combined. That’s 7 years of education. Ways I’ve been victimized by such a failed system is that when I’ve expressed the ‘symptoms’ of a problem they were always punished and no attention was ever brought to wondering “Why is Rem behaving this way? What can we do to better meet her needs? What are our faults in the matter? What can we do better? Etc” Instead I was punished, actually arrested 4 times my freshman year and sent to juvenile hall. I distinctly remember being handcuffed sitting in a chair with a lady yelling at me with two cops at her as security she was threatening to take me away from my home.

Ironically the year before I had come to LOVE my school almost to no end with a passion, it was the first time I was happy since age 10 and it’s been 3.5 or 4 years at this point. And I made the declaration to more than one teacher “I won’t get in trouble for a single thing next year, I plan on doing the best I can.” Now I’m personally not a expert at picking out the obvious but if I knew of a kid who was that happy, that energetic, that motivated to be ‘the best student they could possibly be’ and the next year they get arrested 4 times in school and dragged out by the cops and suspended for the last 30 days of that school semester obviously something went terribly wrong. And I guarantee that it never has anything to do with the student. It is never the student’s fault. The byproduct of that event was I became quite, reserved, shut down, and was afraid to ever express anything in any way shape or form for several years. And that doesn’t even include all the times I was physically restrained on the floor by at least three large male teachers and at this point in my life I was still small for my size.

And you know what? In the fallowing 4 years of my life I would be subject to witnessing other students getting the exact same treatment.

That’s why I want to go back to that school and make sure nothing ever happens to any of those kids ever again, because under no circumstances does a person ever deserve to be treated as such.

The average criminal also fall under that category too, where do you think most of them come from? In my experience in the animal industry I have come to a rather profound realization that despite the existence of animal extremist groups like PETA and ALF trying to shut down and/or destroy/bomb/terrorize animal facilities in the name of animal cruelty. From a unbiased prospective and personal experience I have come to realize that we treat animals in zoos better than humans in any facility.

When a animal bites or kills someone or a keeper/trainer, it’s always the person’s fault, never the animals, the facility recognizes that and responds appropriately. When a animal isn’t performing a desired behavior/trick (human equivalent of working/studying/sports/arts) it’s the trainer’s fault for not getting the message across. I guarantee you no animal understands English so you have to express humility and control to know you can’t smack them to compensate for your own faults.

And being transgender I get upset about gender inequalities for males but I won’t even go there.

- What would you like to give the people you love the most?
Security – I would like to give the people I love security in knowing what they can do without worry of what MIGHT happen. Right now I have my best friend and coworker as my roommate, I am letting her live here and helping her find a job and have been for several months and have gone through various plans and ideas and am now working on more independent stuff since nobody is hiring. I am giving her providing her security in her life despite her not having a job to pay rent or for her own food at the off chance she becomes sustainable and independent from her family where she was trapped and ‘helpless’ for most/all her life until I came along.

To provide anyone such security to have them know and believe it when I hug them and say “No worries, everything is okay” is what gives me some of the most powerful feelings I ever experience; and their gratification for my help.

- What really, really gets you emotional?
Insecurities about not being female enough (no breasts, no vagina, unwanted penis). When a group of people collect around me and honestly express their love for me with nothing more than hugs and words of kindness. A sense of feeling wanted/desired by others. Death of the loved. Feeling like I’m a parent of a baby/child. Social gender equality frustrations, fear of being alone, fear of being rejected by others on a personal level (not sales/business), insecurities about my voice (20 years of testosterone kind of screws it up). Physical touch.

Fear of Success

Remrie's responce to Paul Murphy's post at Better Networker

http://www.betternetworker.com/blogs/view/paulmurphy/a-scary-movie-you-dont-want-to-see#comment-20010

~ Remrie Arrie

I never understood the concept of how someone could possibly fear success, but then I think that comes from the fact that I've never been in a position between success and failure (middle/lower-middle class), and when you grow up in failure your only fear is being stuck there, but you know you can deal with it.


As for actual moment of being in fear, when it's not a immediate danger but rather an omnipresent cloud that looms over the whole of your life it appears what works best is to stop for a moment and analyze it.


AnalyzeWhere does the fear come from? (your history, what your taught, your experiences, traumatic events)Why is it there? (a warning, a notice, an opportunity, surprise etc)What made it present? (What a person said, did, does, the environment, it's new, unknown, strange)What is it doing (Scaring you, exciting you, benefiting you, restricting you, forcing you to rethink, etc)What are your options? (how to act upon the fear, to conform, to persist, to re-plan, to give up, etc)What is your chosen action?What will your action cause?What will be the benefit of doing so?etc


When I find myself faced with a fear I've learned that it's best not to be reactive "OMG I'M FALLING I BETTER FLAIL MY ARMS AND SCREAM BLOODY MURDER" which can cause more harm than good. But instead I would be analytical and observe what happens so I can best compensate and react "OH! I got pushed, I'm falling backwards towards a wall, I might as well just turn around and land on the wall like a push up." or "Oh! I got pushed, no worries the pool is right behind me I'll be fine".


I'll admit, on both a physical and psychological level that takes practice, people look at me weird when I tell them how I naturally react but that's what sports do. First rule of pole vaulting I learned is 'Don't panic' because once you make contact with that pole there is only one way to go and that's up whether you like it or not! Honestly I was more scared about taking that first step towards planting that pole in the ground at running speed knowing it might recoil and I would shoot off in some random direction, lodge the pole into my chest or face, or it would bend too much and break, or I would end up going backwards... ouch, or hitting the bar on the way up (or down), falling off to the sides instead of landing on the mat. Or in some theoretical (1 in 100,000,000) sense someone kicks the pole out from under me. OMG My brain came up with every excuse as to why I should NOT do it than actually why I should do it, same thing with changing genders, same thing with martial arts, same thing with driving a car, same thing with diving, same thing with public speaking, same thing with investing and business.

When it comes to fears, risk, failures, criticism, etc I'm with Kiyosaki "Learn to manage risk" we learn to manage things by learning about them and practicing with peers before we ever go solo. If anyone here fears success for being some bad fat cat be better than everyone by showing everyone how capitalism can benefit society and not just your purse. ~ Remrie

A Note to Women

A Note to Women
~ Remrie Arrie 2009

Note: I am a American so this information is variable and/or not relevant/accurate to other nations, but will likely hold pretty accurate to most western cultures. (U.S, Canada, Australia, etc)

Despite having lived as female for only about 1.5 years so far, having spent the first 20 years of my life as a guy having studied social gender, stereotypes, trends, history and several other things in my mid to late teens I would like to offer a word of encouragement, give you some tips, provide a unique prospective, and hopefully you’ll walk away with at least one thing new you’ve learned.


From my Own Prospective
When growing up as a guy I was taught that some how in some way I was more ‘privileged’ than others, especially as a white male; that somehow like some prince to a throne I was guaranteed to have more success and opportunities than women, other ethnicities. But what I observed in my feelings, in how I was treated by others, by what was expected of me, all I knew though is that I was miserable; both in being transgender having not been born female, and by being subject to the social expectations and stereotypes of a male.

When I went into the history of the genders through society I observed trends, changes in thinking, behavior, commonalities and more. I learned all this stuff on my own free time between 16 & 19 because I wanted to know how gender applied to me and what was expected of me and why on a individual, social, professional, and mental level.

And in doing so I observed one thing, the idea that men somehow have it better than women is not supported in any way in the modern era; total hypocrisy. But it goes without saying just like everyone else there are prejudice guys too just like there are prejudice women.

Feminist communities ranted and raved about how bad girls had it Vs boys, but in my life and through the lives of every other guy I’ve known I could see that on a large scale the grass wasn’t just seemingly greener on the other side of the fence, it really was greener. Now that I have been living as female full time for nearly 1 year now it goes without saying that I am amazed at just how much more green it is than I ever imagined it was.

From my own personal experience I can honestly say as a woman and/or as a transgender I have not been subject to any sexism, discrimination, or hate. But as a man I experienced it on a weekly basis on many levels, not just through the media, but in real life, personally sexist discriminatory hateful behavior against me.

On a Historical Level
Now I’m not a history major, but it doesn’t take a scholar to see that yes. At one time men did have it better, particularly the white men. Virtually all of the world leaders, virtually all of the richest people in the world, virtually all of the most free individuals. And to this day on a dominant level that is still true for a long list of reasons. But discrimination against females certainly isn’t a major factor anymore. In fact ever since the feminist movement first started they’ve not come to a point where they have seriously run out of points of focus in saying women have it worst than men. They’re pretty much down to nit picking. And I guarantee you with current trends if it sustained for a few hundred years you’d likely see nearly equal female to males in power in political and executive seats, maybe even more.

But I’m not writing this just to defend the power of men Vs women, my focus is that in the modern era of the information age women cannot discriminate against themselves on account they feel the world is against them as a woman. Details will be explained further below but the key point is that you as a woman now have more power than ever to achieve anything and everything you want, what defines whether you get it or not is YOU. And you actually may have a few political and social systems in place you might not even know about that are helping you more than men.
On a social level
On a individual, social, and professional level it goes without saying as a woman in the modern era you have –more– freedoms than a man has. I speak from experience and all the news reports of boys in schools getting sent home for wearing a skirt in school while women wear skirts and pants, and male abuse depicted in the media, music, movies, commercials, etc. And the fact that many companies are actually forced to hire/promote women over men on the grounds that if they don’t they might – appear – to be sexist. I’ve seen lots of stories of men more qualified of a job being denied a promotion openly by their boss on the grounds that the company ‘needs’ to promote/hire a woman just for the sake of not seeming sexist.

In growing up I see more sexism against female by other girls on all levels more than any man does, particularly in the young/mid and often in late teens girls are so abusive to each other it’s no wonder they feel like they’re being oppressed. But beyond 20 the reality of things change greatly, often times individuals aren’t even aware of it, they only focus on things not going right for them and they wonder why, but they never wonder why when something goes right, they just accept it.

On a personal level if something went right for me and I wondered why only to learn I was hired because the company needed to hire me over a guy more qualified and experienced to do it I would actually feel bad enough to give up my position to that guy.

On an educational level, this one in particular is where feminist organizations that claim that girls are some how not given equal treatment are running out of topics of influence and are forced to nit-pick and be vague on meanings and definitions. In one case in a link sited below by a woman named Judith she points out even the research conducted by these groups sometimes vanishes into thin air and/or are tightly guarded to ensure it doesn’t get used in any way they feel might question the validity of their ‘research’ even though on most levels at a college level there are statistically more females enrolled than males faring just as good if not better in all but a select few fields and only in areas where out of the whole U.S population the difference might be 2,000 males Vs 400 females in something almost nobody pursues anyways.

http://www.judithkleinfeld.com/ar_studentperformance.html
(I read the entire thing and found it rather interesting personally)

All the while completely ignoring the fact that in many black only schools the student body can be as much as 2/3 female and if bad enough the males who are enrolled end up dropping out due to the social that comes with being in these sorts of environments. Thus leaving the entire graduating class even more female dominated than male
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29933480

When I was still a guy, I enrolled into a college program in exotic animal care and training, and out of the entire student body of 100 students in the program there were only 10 guys Vs 90 females. If you include the fact that I am transgender and still living as a guy that was not a particularly appealing environment for me especially, so much so that it actually lead to my failure from the program. And I promises you there was not favoritism for males or females on any educational or professional level and the guys certainly didn’t hold any authority.

On a Media Level
On a media level how much are women oppressed? Because the media is also dramatized it is going to be excessive in it’s details whether in music, videos, and ads that depict women as sex objects and only good for beauty and such, but honestly how bad is that? Shows you’re desired by others and have something to be proud of physically. The stuff I tend to see are ads that emphasize lack of male freedom of expression, promoting physical and psychological abuse, stupidity and that the only thing they care about are women’s bodies.

I’ll tell every girl straight up testosterone can be quite a mind control device that causes you to do things you naturally wouldn’t do otherwise. Combine that with emotional and personal problems and it’s a recipe for disaster.

To a degree I am bias I’ll say that, but the extremes of both sides exist on a massive level in the media due to the ‘entertainment’ factor of companies that need to catch the eyes of their audience/market. A song by Carie Underwood called ‘Before He Cheats’ promoting excessive vandalism of a guys material goods just because of the – thought – of him cheating on her without proof is by no means anymore acceptable than some rap song about how women are only good for sex. Neither do anyone any justice that’s for sure.

We would all do better if we just through out our TVs and listened to Reggae music.
Don’t let the media influence your decisions and way of thinking. As many call it the ‘plug in drug’ you should be advised to not watch it excessively. Yet the average home people watch 40 to 50 hours of TV, just as much as they work. It doesn’t do anything for your time that’s for sure, especially if you’re left feeling insecure and bad about the world because of the news.

On a Reality Level
It goes without saying, in reality it doesn’t matter who is superior, and perfect gender equality is impossible to achieve, but also we must be more responsible on a individual level not to fall into the victimized or dominance mind frame that you or others are greater than or lesser than you or other individuals. To express bitterness and favoritism for one thing over the other creates the bias that fuels hate and distrust; and without becoming too anal we do have to realize that yes those commercials as noted above are funny, they’re well made and being able to laugh at ourselves and others is a basic human behavior; and so is being self conscious and in turn feeling hurt.

But we have to be able to take what we dish out and on the male level there needs to be a strong sense of honesty, integrity, character, loyalty, flexibility, cooperative, supportive, and encouraging behaviors in both ourselves and in those around us. If you can master your heart for better or worst, you can master your brain and life with ease for better or for worst. If you master your heart, brain and life for the better of yourself and those around you, your power of influence over yourself and others will become substantially greater. And if you do so you have the responsibility to benefit positive peers around you and be a positive peer for others. Let’s face it; women make awesome heroes both in real life and in fiction. You own it to yourself, and you owe it to others, if not for anybody you know personally then at the very least you owe it to me to be the positive influence for others that I do my best to be for you and others.

The excuses of the Industrial Age are no longer valid, in fact much of the Industrial Age format is now obsolete beyond the fundamental levels now that we’re in the Information Age where anything and anyone goes where they want and how they want. I’m transgender, I likely have less rights than mostly anyone else. Lord forbid I’m arrested and treated as a guy and forced to live in the male cells despite the fact that I look completely female. But I’m not complaining, I’m doing my part and taking advantage of the resources of the internet to increase my personal abilities on all levels to achieve infinite success despite any ‘discrimination’ I – might – experience in the future but have yet to.

The fact of the matter is you create your own luck, the peers in your life are people you chose to have in your life, the place you work is where you chose to be, the habits you exhibit you created yourself, and more. If you are to change your life you have to change everything about you and your life to best reflect what you want in life.

Model Behavior that you get From Others
“Be the change you want to see” as Gandhi puts it or “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” If you want help from others be of help to others. Do not expect others to blindly come to your aid; luck only goes so far on its own. But you can create your own luck by creating luck for others; their luck in turns comes back to you.

The best way to learn is to teach others what you have learned. Even by simple newsletters, articles such as these and announcements, even if nobody reads a thing I type by physically putting it back out there into the universe I am reinforcing it within myself. And as more and more people benefit from what I do, I will in turn benefit from what they do. Word of mouth is powerful and travels fast. Good things can come out of their mouth or bad things. The problem with criminal behavior is there’s so much bad stuff traveling around word of mouth everyone has to keep their mouth shut, oppress others, and fear anything getting out to cops.

To best spark the growth and development in your life you have to first change your environment by putting yourself in the environment that best supports what you want to do. If you want to be a life guard on the beaches of the Florida Keys you better move out of the Rocky Mountains and/or get that education you need and work experience.

If you want to graduate school you better be hanging out with people who are actually in school. And it helps to move close to one.

If you want more opportunities you have to either get creative with what is available to you or if you feel there is not enough then move to a location where you have a better chance of hitting it big.

If you want to be a teacher you have to first learn the subject then start teaching others even before you go to school to do so. Being a teacher is about taking action, not having a degree and working in a school. We all teach each other every day every time we interact at all times of the day.

If you want anything in life you have to stop doing what isn’t helping you, and start doing what you know will, and you have to help others in a way that will also help you, even if it doesn’t seem to have an immediate benefit. For instance I am creating the Success Folder without any guarantee that anyone will benefit from anything from it, but the simple act of creating this resource creates one more thing out there to help people, and by physically typing out all this information myself I am reinforcing what I have learned and what I believe in.

Realize that success doesn’t come at a cost, and that other things don’t come at the cost of success. For example from “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki

Poor Dad: “The reason I am not rich is because I have you kids”
(Whether by meaning he prefers to have his kids than to be rich or that his kids are the reason he cannot be rich he is accepting the idea that one has to be sacrificed for the other)

Rich Dad: “The reason I MUST be rich is because I have you kids”
(For the reason that he has a responsibility he feels he has the moral obligation to ensure their future by having the cake and eating it too in order to feed his kids and secure all of their futures)

Success only comes with three requirements:
1. You must take action. You only have today, you’ve never seen tomorrow, and yesterday is forever gone. You either start now today, or later on today even if you’re turning 80 years old today.
2. You must help others if you are to be helped by others. And you can’t do it without help
3. You must exhibit positive affirmations in the present tense (I -am-, I -do-, I -see-, I -now-, I -know-). Past tense do not work that is why people who always say ‘I will’ seldom ever do while people who say “I’m already working on it” are already making progress while the other is due to make progress subject to what they feel is appropriate timing (To get out of school, for the weather to improve, to move, to change jobs, etc.) Using positive visual reminders helps to reinforce the affirmations you use, helps keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals. My entire apartment and computer is covered in motivational posters and pictures cut out of vacation magazines of where I am going to live and when and what I am going to be doing much of which I already am doing.


Get to where you want to be by taking action, help others along the way, and use positive affirmation by knowing, understanding, and believing that ‘Anything the mind can conceive and believe it can (and will) achieve.’

The world isn't either a man’s world or a woman’s world, anyone who believes that is a caveman who has some evolving to do, this is a world of individuals who cooperatively work together to support each other's existence knowing you cannot have one without the other so you might as well work to make each other successful to ensure success.

Seek Help
When it comes to seeking help, for women it’s generally much easier than men, both the social and personal support is there as well as the public/government resources and programs. When it comes to seeking help though it might not always be so easy, particularly for what you’re asking. But as a man or as a woman we all have to seek help, and we also have to give help. I promise the more you help others, the more you will be helped by others when you need them.

If I end up homeless I know the first person I’m going to find, the homeless guy I give all my recyclables to so that he can live a little bit better life. 10 years down the road if I’m penniless and need a friend to take care of me and help me get back on my feet I know exactly who to go to, my best friend, coworker, roommate, professional partner, and who I hope to be my future lover. Because I have taken a lot of my personal time, resources, and care to get her sustainable in life as well. And if my Success Folder helps out a mass number of individuals in their lives, should I get punished in courts I can imagine I’d have a lot of supporters whether or not I expect any at all. And should anyone become super rich from this information, should I need a business partner and they recognize my name it’s safe to assume they will be far from willing to say no.

The fact of the matter though is that it is hard to express the humility needed to take down our pride and say “I need your help, can you help me?” Everyone is afraid of asking for help, but this is something that is especially challenging for men and it needs to be overcome. If your lost without a GPS or road map pull over and ask for help, you need to do the same thing down the road of life. Back seat drivers don’t help either, drop their butts off and keep going before they get you lost even more.

And like with any international trip or expedition you need a guide to help you out through life in where you want to go. In business, education, spirituality, society, and your personal life, you cannot reach your full potential without asking help. It does take humility to seek it, but every man I’ve seen who’ve sought help has had more pride in themselves as an individual than any other I’ve ever seen. The men who don’t are still locked in a childish mentality that they were taught growing up to do it themselves, to be ‘the man’, D.I.Y do-it-yourself, etc.

Seek help, ask for direction, ask for other people’s input, ask for their sincerity, ask for coaches, ask for special attention. Go as far as you need to go to have your needs met. 2 nights ago before writing this I had to fight with myself to summon up the strength to ask for my best friend to pet me as I laid beside her sad and depressed. After about a few minutes I managed to just do it and she was willing to do something so simple yet would be humiliating for most people on many levels, yet it was infinitely beneficial in pulling me out of my mood.

Just an F.Y.I, asking for help takes practice. You want a challenge? Ask people to help you change genders, ask people to accept you as a girl. That’s a challenge. But it all comes in steps so don’t worry. Start with asking for simple things and work your way up gradually over time.

A Note to Men

A Note to Men
3/29/09
~Remrie Arrie

Note: I am a American so this information is variable and/or not relevant/accurate to other nations, but will likely hold pretty accurate to most western cultures. (U.S, Canada, Australia, etc)

Despite living as a girl now, having spent the first 20 years of my life as a guy having studied social gender, stereotypes, trends, history and several other things in my mid to late teens I would like to offer a word of encouragement, give you some tips, provide a unique prospective, and hopefully you’ll walk away with at least one thing new you’ve learned.

From my Own Prospective
When growing up as a guy I was taught that some how in some way I was more ‘privileged’ than others, especially as a white male; that somehow like some prince to a throne I was guaranteed to have more success and opportunities than women, other ethnicities. But what I observed in my feelings, in how I was treated by others, by what was expected of me, all I knew though is that I was miserable; both in being transgender having not been born female, and by being subject to the social expectations and stereotypes of a male.

When I went into the history of the genders through society I observed trends, changes in thinking, behavior, commonalities and more. I learned all this stuff on my own free time between 16 & 19 because I wanted to know how gender applied to me and what was expected of me and why on a individual, social, professional, and mental level.

And in doing so I observed one thing, the idea that men somehow have it better than women is not supported in any way in the modern era; total hypocrisy. But it goes without saying just like everyone else there are prejudice guys too.

On a Historical Level
Now I’m not a history major, but it doesn’t take a scholar to see that yes. At one time men did have it better, particularly the white men. Virtually all of the world leaders, virtually all of the richest people in the world, virtually all of the most free individuals. And to this day on a dominant level that is still true for a long list of reasons. But what isn’t happening anymore that was happening in history is that men are not being treated like they are great, in the past yes they were treated as greater than females, but now days many men grow up with the daughters of the family being encouraged and supported more than the son as if it’s expected by default that he will be fine on his own and doesn’t need help, shouldn’t ask for help, and shouldn’t receive it.

But it also goes without saying that no-one is better than the other, by default we are all equal, human, nothing more nothing less.

On a present level the situation has been flipped nearly 180*. Now days men are not enrolling in schools, a resent report on black males show predominantly black schools are 2/3 female, and that many of the men who enroll never graduate.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29933480

On a social level
I’ll be the first to say and defend the statement that men do not get fair treatment in life on a social level, at work, in school, at home, etc. The vocabulary of modern society isn’t supportive of men with common every day terms people don’t think about. Many are degrading, but it’s also not like women don’t have their share; they do.

On a social level the lack of freedom of expression is not high on the priority list of men. The only way to look good on a ‘masculine’ level is mostly limited to suits and ties with minor variations of colors and/or details. This one was a particular pet peeve of mine when I watched girls in schools wear pants and skirts but I saw news reports of boys being punished/suspended from school for wearing a skirt. We all have our own level of expression we all wish to express, but it’s hard to promote that side of us when we’re expected to wear baggy, plain, drab clothing that isn’t flattering of our individual unique identity. A good example of this is any store you go to, for example if you go into Wal-Mart, typically the girls clothing section Vs the boys is twice the size of the boys. In the women clothing section Vs the men’s it’s typically two to three times the size of the men’s section. Granted you’ll see lots of pink but it goes without saying the colors and styles in everything vary substantially greater than our T-shirts, button up T-shirts, hoodies, sweatshirts, and tank tops.

In education and school as a whole the same holds true for the most part to the most degree but conversely on many levels males and females are equal, though through aggressive feminist movements to highlight the problems of females despite their level of equality or dominance over males men are typically overlooked because the resources for guys just aren’t available when it comes to emotional problems, abuse, child support, anxieties, college funds, etc.

I read this entire page and felt it was worth noting. The article is by Judith Kleinfeld
http://www.judithkleinfeld.com/ar_studentperformance.html

For example on a ethnic level Vs gender, in Southern CA 50% of the population his Hispanic, the rest is divided between whites, blacks, Asians, etc… Yet there is such an influence in the idea that the Hispanics are the minorities and when individuals who look Hispanic go to the hospital or schools and get all these grants and programs shoved in their face they go “Oh I’m not Hispanic” and the entire stack of beneficial services to meet their needs is all taken away. This was the case for one individual I knew in a community college near Los Angeles.

On a Media Level
On a media level the social through the use of advertisements, activism, political agendas, televised drama and all around stereotypes the differences in gender are dramatized.

Now I don’t mean to favor strictly males when I say this but in the media men are not treated kindly. Australian commercial of a ski resort depicted a guy being tied to a tennis net pole and having a girl shoot tennis balls at his crotch with a tennis ball launcher. Conversely if you tied the girl to the pole and shot balls at her crotch it would never air. I dare anyone to test that. In another commercial that aired in both Australia and America a guy is sitting on the beach and for whatever reason a girl takes a variety of objects represented as a penis and proceeds to make statements as such by cracking a stick in half bitterly, biting and smashing food and other object and all of this is obvious psychological warfare on the female part to cause psychological distress. You wouldn’t see a guy making such jesters by carrying two large melons and oogling over them in front of a small woman with small/no breasts and yet a commercial was taken off the air of a guy who turned a hart drawn in the sand and turned it into a pair of breasts.

My personal most hated is a commercial by J.C Penney if I remember correctly, but it was a spoof off of Irving Berlin’s song “Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better” and it featured a guy and a girl. The guy wearing a great pair of pants and a woman who was jealous of them she wanted them, so they do this whole big dance and song about her wanting his pants and she ends up physically taking them off of him and wearing them herself with the big declaration at the end of the song ‘YES I CAAAAAN!!!!’. That was my personal pet peeve because you won’t see commercials of a guy stripping a girl to her underwear for the sake of wearing her skirt.

On a Reality Level
But it goes without saying, in reality it doesn’t matter who is superior, and perfect gender equality is impossible to achieve, but also we must be more responsible on a individual level not to fall into the victimized or dominance mind frame that you or others are greater than or lesser than you or other individuals. To express bitterness and favoritism for one thing over the other creates the bias that fuels hate and distrust; and without becoming too anal we do have to realize that yes those commercials as noted above are funny, they’re well made and being able to laugh at ourselves and others is a basic human behavior; and so is being self conscious and in turn feeling hurt.

But we have to be able to take what we dish out and on the male level there needs to be a strong sense of honesty, integrity, character, loyalty, flexibility, cooperative, supportive, and encouraging behaviors in both ourselves and in those around us. If you can master your heart for better or worst, you can master your brain and life with ease for better or for worst. If you master your heart, brain and life for the better of yourself and those around you, your power of influence over yourself and others will become substantially greater. And if you do so you have the responsibility to benefit positive peers around you and be a positive peer for others. Lets face it, men make awesome heroes both in real life and in fiction. You own it to yourself, and you owe it to others, if not for anybody you know personally then at the very least you owe it to me to be the positive influence for others that I do my best to be for you and others.

Model Behavior that you get From Others
“Be the change you want to see” as Gandhi puts it or “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” If you want help from others be of help to others. Do not expect others to blindly come to your aid; luck only goes so far on its own. But you can create your own luck by creating luck for others; their luck in turns comes back to you.

The best way to learn is to teach others what you have learned. Even by simple newsletters, articles such as these and announcements, even if nobody reads a thing I type by physically putting it back out there into the universe I am reinforcing it within myself. And as more and more people benefit from what I do, I will in turn benefit from what they do. Word of mouth is powerful and travels fast. Good things can come out of their mouth or bad things. The problem with criminal behavior is there’s so much bad stuff traveling around word of mouth everyone has to keep their mouth shut, oppress others, and fear anything getting out to cops.

To best spark the growth and development in your life you have to first change your environment by putting yourself in the environment that best supports what you want to do. If you want to be a life guard on the beaches of the Florida Keys you better move out of the Rocky Mountains and/or get that education you need and work experience.

If you want to graduate school you better be hanging out with people who are actually in school. And it helps to move close to one.

If you want more opportunities you have to either get creative with what is available to you or if you feel there is not enough then move to a location where you have a better chance of hitting it big.

If you want to be a teacher you have to first learn the subject then start teaching others even before you go to school to do so. Being a teacher is about taking action, not having a degree and working in a school. We all teach each other every day every time we interact at all times of the day.

If you want anything in life you have to stop doing what isn’t helping you, and start doing what you know will, and you have to help others in a way that will also help you, even if it doesn’t seem to have an immediate benefit. For instance I am creating the Success Folder without any guarantee that anyone will benefit from anything from it, but the simple act of creating this resource creates one more thing out there to help people, and by physically typing out all this information myself I am reinforcing what I have learned and what I believe in.

Realize that success doesn’t come at a cost, and that other things don’t come at the cost of success. For example from “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki

Poor Dad: “The reason I am not rich is because I have you kids”
(Whether by meaning he prefers to have his kids than to be rich or that his kids are the reason he cannot be rich he is accepting the idea that one has to be sacrificed for the other)

Rich Dad: “The reason I MUST be rich is because I have you kids”
(For the reason that he has a responsibility he feels he has the moral obligation to ensure their future by having the cake and eating it too in order to feed his kids and secure all of their futures)

Success only comes with three requirements:
You must take action. You only have today, you’ve never seen tomorrow, and yesterday is forever gone. You either start now today, or later on today even if you’re turning 80 years old today.
You must help others if you are to be helped by others. And you can’t do it without help
You must exhibit positive affirmations in the present tense (I -am-, I -do-, I -see-, I -now-, I -know-). Past tense do not work that is why people who always say ‘I will’ seldom ever do while people who say “I’m already working on it” are already making progress while the other is due to make progress subject to what they feel is appropriate timing (To get out of school, for the weather to improve, to move, to change jobs, etc.) Using positive visual reminders helps to reinforce the affirmations you use, helps keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals. My entire apartment and computer is covered in motivational posters and pictures cut out of vacation magazines of where I am going to live and when and what I am going to be doing much of which I already am doing.


Get to where you want to be by taking action, help others along the way, and use positive affirmation by knowing, understanding, and believing that ‘Anything the mind can conceive and believe it can (and will) achieve.’

The world isn't either a man’s world or a woman’s world, anyone who believes that is a caveman who has some evolving to do, this is a world of individuals who cooperatively work together to support each other's existence knowing you cannot have one without the other so you might as well work to make each other successful to ensure success.

Seek Help
It goes without saying that as a man you need every bit as much help and deserve every bit as much help as any other woman for any and all reasons under the sun. Without help from others and being of help to others you ensure your own failure. The hardest thing for me was, and many guys is to express the humility needed to take down our pride and say “I need your help, can you help me?” Everyone is afraid of asking for help, but this is something that is especially challenging for men and it needs to be overcome. If your lost without a GPS or road map pull over and ask for help, you need to do the same thing down the road of life. Back seat drivers don’t help either, drop their butts off and keep going before they get you lost even more.

And like with any international trip or expedition you need a guide to help you out through life in where you want to go. In business, education, spirituality, society, and your personal life, you cannot reach your full potential without asking help. It does take humility to seek it, but every man I’ve seen who’ve sought help has had more pride in themselves as an individual than any other I’ve ever seen. The men who don’t are still locked in a childish mentality that they were taught growing up to do it themselves, to be ‘the man’, D.I.Y do-it-yourself, etc.

Seek help, ask for direction, ask for other people’s input, ask for their sincerity, ask for coaches, ask for special attention. Go as far as you need to go to have your needs met. 2 nights ago before writing this I had to fight with myself to summon up the strength to ask for my best friend to pet me as I laid beside her sad and depressed. After about a few minutes I managed to just do it and she was willing to do something so simple yet would be humiliating for most people on many levels, yet it was infinitely beneficial in pulling me out of my mood.

Just an F.Y.I, asking for help takes practice. You want a challenge? Ask people to help you change genders, ask people to accept you as a girl. That’s a challenge. But it all comes in steps so don’t worry. Start with asking for simple things and work your way up gradually over time.

About the Success Folder

About The Success Folder
~ Remrie Arrie
To learn how to use the Success Folder please visit the link below
http://www.cooperative-success.spaces.live.com/
The folder itself can be found here
Rule Number 1 – Whether you spend thousands of dollars on this stuff or get it for free no resource in the Success Folder can help you with anything in your life unless you possess a red hot core of driven passion to make change happen.

If there is any ethics/moral based reason for me being punished for providing this stuff for free to you it’s the fact that paying thousands of dollars for these programs is your own insurance policy because you’re backing your words and integrity with your wallet. But if you’re like me with more integrity than money you’ll be hard pressed to find reliable support amidst the fragmented information scattered around the internet.

Unfortunately for those people money only holds as much worth as it means to you, for me I’d throw a trillion dollars just to pay a hooker to spend 30 minutes cuddling, it has no worth to me, it’s the worst gift anyone could ever receive and it holds no more mental worth than numbers. Because of that, paying thousands of dollars for programs like Rich Dad’s Coaching although is a wonderful experience, does not ensure my success. Should I ever fail at anything for any reason, lack of money will not be cause of my failure, should I ever succeed at anything for any reason, excess amounts of money will not be the cause of my success. The future cannot be bought, all the richest men and women ever have all died, and all those of great fortune to come so too will die.

That is why there is much more to all this than financial development, the abundance of money, it’s about the abundance of appreciation, abundance of gratitude, abundance of giving credit where credit is due, abundance of honesty, abundance of integrity, abundance of control, abundance of power, ambition, potential, giving, forgiveness, respect, love, good habits, health, clarity, guidance, and more.

But I will tell you this…

You will only get out of it what you put into it, put nothing into it, get nothing out of it, be half assed about it you’ll only get half an ass, and if you go as far as me to spend every waking moment of your free time for over a year dedicated to ensuring your future for a positive change for which you have 100% control over it your returns from this content will prove to be an infinitely renewable valuable asset for which anything can happen in the universe. If you put more work into this stuff than me your potential benefit is immeasurable.

But here’s the catch…
You must apply everything you learn the moment you learn it!
Without exception!!!

The moment you learn anything of benefit to you that you want to have changed in your life you must start immediately without hesitation to cause that change to happen, you start by writing it down, and make a note to do it at every chance as often as possible every single day. By doing this you will create a habit that will ensure it’s continued positive influence upon your life. Don’t just listen to an hour long audio track and pick out notes passively. Stop everything at every valuable information and spend as much time as you can thinking about it, applying it, writing it out, and repeating it in your head, and above all teach it to others before moving on.
In the Success Folder you will find the likes of
Å¡ Robert Kiyosaki
Å¡ Bob Proctor
Å¡ Zig Ziglar
Å¡ Jack Canfield
Å¡ Steven Covey
Å¡ Steve Chandler
Å¡ Dan Kennedy
Å¡ Anthony Tony Robbins
Å¡ Dale Carnegie
Å¡ Napoleon Hill
And many more individuals including myself, and of course in providing all these resources it would be unjust if I charged you for my content so it is with pleasure that I provide my services for you for free as well. I benefit in doing this in far more ways than money could ever compensate for; even if nobody ever reads anything or download a single file at all.

I do not provide any of this information for any of the fallowing reasons
“Getting back at ‘the system’”
“Sticking it to the rich man”
“Steal from the rich give to the poor”
“Be as charitable of a person I can be”
“I support total anarchy”
“I hate capitalism and everything should be free”
“Revenge for _________ reason”
Etc.

I provide this information to promote positive, individual, personal growth and development in every area of life needed to lead a ‘successful’, ‘meaningful’, and ‘wealthy’ life.

While I do believe in free trade of information and resources between the public in a free market, especially with the advent of the internet and with it companies losing much of their legal grip on securing and controlling the transfer and distribution of their products and information in order to secure profits. I feel it is only appropriate to do so when such an action inhibits and restricts the progress of education and developmental needs, both in school and out of it. There is certainly a difference between distributing 100GB of music and movies, it’s totally different when its practical useful as an educational tool for real life challenges and issues.

I only request of 2 things from you
1. Don’t hope, pray, wish, or wait for change to happen. Expect, force, know, guarantee and will it into existence no matter what it takes. You must work to make change happen, but work -efficiently- start by building habits that sustain your progress.

And

2. Read my file ‘What I Ask of You’ you can find it on the Success Folder’s main page and/or in the file ‘Remrie Arrie’.
www.TinyURL.com/SuccessFolder

Open Blog

It's with great pride I start my first personal blog... I've been all around the net, done lots of things, but I've never personally had much of a blog in the way of an online journal. But this isn't just rants about what I'm doing, or my feelings, or events in my life. It is my blog to post useful information to promote the development of other individual through my experiences, what I know, resources I can provide, and hopefully build something of a community effort to develop our lives together.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

About Remrie Arrie

About Remrie Arrie
~ Remrie Arrie
(Current as of April/1/2009)

What I do and Why I do it
Okay, rather than tell you some long sappy sad story about how bad my life was born and raised in a town of 3,300 as the male middle transgender child between two sisters, who had few/no decent friends other than a cat, single parent that after age 12 seemed negligent, being arrested 4 times my freshman year of high-school, tackled by teachers on many occasions, countless fights, being chased out of my house twice by my grandma, moved 2000 miles to Los Angeles CA only to fail her dream school, end up homeless, nearly a victim of a scam and changed genders….

Instead I’ll just save that for the more detailed parts below if you’re interested.

What I do: On Twitter I was told to describe myself in 160 characters or less, this is what I came up with… “Motivational speaking independent entrepreneurial exotic animal training real estate investor teaching black belt transgender martial artist on a rampage. OMG!!”

I’ve done sports and novelty activities all my life, and will continue to do them.

Up until age 10 – Skating, bike riding, roller blading, soccer, sledding, ice skating, tree climbing, trampoline, play grounds and equipment, school classes and recess games like dodge ball, 4 square, red rover, kick ball, etc, I even learned to drive at age 6.

Up until age 20 – Skating, bike riding, roller blading, running, pole vaulting, Tae Kwon Do, tree climbing, swimming, hiking, school PE activities which I rocked in.

On a personal and professional level I have a heavy foundation in psychology of both humans and animals from my interest of animals, and being transgender and how the world applies to me, I continue to learn more about psychology, training, behavior, management, psychological type, co-counseling, and various other things in my free time.

In the animal industry side of things I learn to take care of animals in unique ways and learn about methods of working with something that cannot get care from anyone else other than me, and how I am to take care and communicate with something that I’ve never seen in my life, that doesn’t speak English or human body language and has behavior/psychological problems due to it’s history.
As transgender I’ve learned a wide variety of unique social and personal things on every level it’s quite mind blowing at times really, but it has lead me to develop myself that would otherwise be no way possible to better understand myself and others.

I got into investing through a rather bad event in my life and I have come to decide I need that financial security no matter what, and it’s something I continue to do and develop to this day which point me to interesting sources I’ve never heard about in my life that lead me into motivational speaking.

Motivational speaking, teaching, coaching, etc I got into from Investing when learning about the ‘secrets’ to becoming rich, or more technically the word nobody really wants to listen to or bother with: the fundamentals to becoming rich. In these fundamentals I’ve discovered quite a few big names in the field and got into it and was very intrigued… I’m a psychology person what do you expect? Now I’m not stupid but being only 22 I know I am stupid (figure that one out). Even for my age, diversity of experiences in life, accomplishments, etc I tend to really blow people’s minds from all the stuff I put some guessed that I have as much life experience as any 40 year old and then some like changing genders.

But I know that I am not the greatest or even that great at the things I do, I’m more or less a jack of all trades and through my long life story I’ve decided the best way to channel all that stuff into a useful purpose is to be a jack of all trades in providing basic fundamental things in life with exceptional care, sympathy, and humility for where others have been… Because I’ve likely been there, it’s almost a matter of time before I physically kill someone which I hope never happens by accident or on purpose even if they endanger me.

And since I’ve learned all this motivational personal development stuff I’ve decided to channel all my efforts back into communities I came from to show them that they have all the potential and resources needed to achieve infinite success. And provide them with services and resources to assist them even while I’m not personally involved. My last dream was a lie to myself to shield me from my fears, but now I know it was only a novelty thing I can still enjoy, but there are things I want to do in life of more benefit. So I channel all my thoughts, power, habits, and know-how into improving myself


Why I do it: Because I have some fantasy far stretched dream way out there into the universe that believes that it is possible to restructure and rebuild the foundation of modern educational and personal/social developmental systems can be rebuilt from the ground up with a new format and guide to success, efficiency, and quality that would produce citizens of the world far greater than any of the greatest people who live in modern society.

And that the entire ‘negative reinforcement’ punishment based teaching system used on personal, social, educational, professional, and government levels can be completely removed and replaced with a ‘positive reinforcement’ reward based system.

And to promote a positive capitalistic and social system that promotes positive experiences in trust and mutual respect between individuals who aren’t afraid of random strangers saying hi, who aren’t afraid of criticism, who aren’t held back by peers, who have the free power of will and resources to achieve their dreams on a individual, mental, social, and professional level.
I do it for you, I do it for everyone you love, I do it for society, business, and government so that you will do it for others and that they will in turn do it for more people. And that those people eventually work their way back around to doing it for you and me when we need such help in our lives as well rather than feeling lost and alone with no one to turn to.

Fun Fact
My name is 100% custom made by me, Remrie Ra Arrie (Rem-Ree) (Rah) (Uh-Ree), and if you Google (or any other search engine): "Sephroe", "Sephroe Zion", "Remrie", "Remrie Arrie" virtually all the results will be about me. I don't do anything online I don't expect others to see so if you're REALLY interested if I want it known you can find it.

If you’re wondering why I made up my own name it’s because I’m transgender so my old name wouldn’t really work. Since I’ve changed it I’ve actually had many compliments about it, weird…

Details About my Name
š Remrie came from a cartoon character named Rem Saverem from a cartoon called Trigun. She was one of my first heroes despite only being in one 30 minute episode. I used Rem since it was her name and I wanted to adopt as much of her into my life as possible, but also to create my own identity separate of Rem I made it ‘Remrie’. I’ll explain who Rem is in detail under “My Heroes”.

š Ra came about when I couldn’t ever decide on a decent middle name for myself, I then decided that I was neglecting to including my dad and my former self into my life so to reinforce that my dad is always a part of who I am I made it the first initial of his first name and the first initial of my old first name; Robert and his son Allen (R.A).

š Arrie came out of thin air and was tacked on simply because I like how it flows with Remrie. Remrie Arrie is the only name I could really ever wrap my mind around because it’s unique, one of a kind, creative, and I made it, and it is who I am. My dad was telling me about the story behind the meaning of my last name, and how it stood for respect, caring, understanding, ethics, fairness as it came from my grandfather’s side of the story. My grandfather died before or right after my birth so I never met him personally so I can’t say for sure about what came from his side of things. But when my dad told me this I then felt that nobody other than 3 people in my family deserved to bare the last name including myself and my dad, the last person is an aunt of mine named Janet. So rather than keep that name tainted by the other family members, I decided to give Arrie the personal meaning of everything Rem Saverem and my dad/grandfather’s name stands for. Even if I never have a child, if I’m the only Arrie that ever in my genetic bloodline that’s just one more Arrie to make all the difference.


My History
š Born in central Illinois U.S.A (Nobody below Chicago considers Chicago to be a part of Illinois. There is Illinois, then Chicago state. ^_^)
š My mom divorced my dad when I was 3 or less, my dad remarried when I was like 4 or something but that failed quickly too. So I was one of 2 kids my single father raised while he finished college to become a teacher.
š I was always exceptionally small for my size until mid/late puberty, at 15 I started growing more but I was generally just as small as the smallest girl.
š Raised in Illinois in a town of 3,300 people named Rushville. Lived in a town of 100,000 from 1st to 5th grade did soccer, skating, rock climbing, hiking, tree climbing, bike riding and anything possible (I had a VERY lenient parent). Unlike restrictive parents, my dad gave me free range over a 1 mile by 2 mile block of the city to do whatever I wanted; and that's what I did door to door in many instances with paper routes and selling stuff for my school.
š Traveled to Disney World and Key West Florida when I was 10 with my dad and I love it there!!!!
š Lived in Ganado Arizona (tiny town surrounded by chain link fencing) in 6th grade - I skipped 44+ days of school and still passed....
š Lived in Rushville the rest of my life until age 19, (at the age of 12 I knew I started knowing I shouldn't be a guy but instead female, and by 16 I was sure. Puberty from here on out as you can imagine wasn’t fun, imaging growing up through puberty and turning into a fly and feeling as if you’re not human for who you are.)
š At age 12 I learned about the differences between boys and girls through porn magazines, hormonally, mentally, personally, socially, and gender confused my biological programming dictated what I did as I entered into puberty, I experimented with women’s clothing, stuffing bras, putting a pillow under my shirt and pretending I was pregnant, water balloons as breasts, and because of the lack of guidance by peers I went as far as to ‘molest’ my 3 year old cousin. As you can imagine the family didn’t take kindly to that news, I was exiled by much of the family, ignored by the rest, and seemingly everyone gave up on me at that point in my life. Fallowing which my grandma would eventually chase me out of the house on two separate occasions kicking me out… But in a town of 3,300 people where would a 12/13 year old boy go? I just ended up wandering the town at 2am crying with my bike and at the empty fair ground and walk in front of the small police station where one of the officers actually had enough courtesy to ask me why I was out and what was wrong. From there he invited me in and called my dad, I think the cop knew who I was and my dad.
š At age 13 or 14 as a guy I was forced by my dad to get a haircut. I loathed him for it. I didn’t look at myself in a mirror all day or watch the cut happen, and on the way out of the barber shop I kicked my dad in the lower spine (yet held back) hard enough to knock a 5’10 250lbs guy a couple of steps forward and nearly fall down the step. This was probably the first real dream I ever had smashed, I wanted my hair down to the floor or back of the knees. It grows ½ inch per month. At age 17 under peer pressure I would have it cut again to which it was half way down my back. Since then I’ve kept growing it out further and it’s now at my lower back now that I’m 22. At age 17 had it not been cut the first time it would be where it is now and I would feel much happier with myself and have more confidence to keep it long. If it was never cut and I was allowed by my dad and peers to keep it, now at age 22 it would be down to mid-shin bone past my knees to which I’d be have super self confidence. But something as simple as getting two haircuts, at age 14 and 17 never hurt less than anything else. Physical pain wise, I didn’t feel a thing, mental/emotional/psychological pain you might as well have cut my right arm off.
š I Went to Project Insight, a special education 'alternative school' for students with 'special needs'...... Their only needs are care, respect, understanding, support, and flexibility in people who care for them on a personal level. That's all! Yet 80% of the students didn’t get even that let alone a decent educational foundation. Bossed through life, punished by their every action, neglected for everything positive they did, admired by like-minded peers of bad things they’ve done their social, mental, and personal development become confused and lack real guidance. I was there from grades 7 to 12 (senior). 50 students total including all grades (about 20 staff members), two hallways, 7 classrooms, a gym that doubled as a lunch room, and a few miscellaneous areas.
š At that school Project Insight I got in trouble many times, and was tackled many times by teachers, I remember fighting them for so long, and so hard that I literally fell asleep on the tile flooring of the halls where 3 big male teachers had me pinned down at age 14. I remember waking up to the sight of my dad’s feet walking down the hall my way. In this same year I was also arrested 4 times my freshman year of high-school and sent to juvenile hall on the 4th time within 8 months, and was suspended the last 30 days of school, spent a few days in Juvenile hall, and put on probation.... And I still passed. Go figure. Keep in mind that the year before this towards the end of the year, and when summer ended I was looking forward to being in school. I had made declarations to various teachers about my goal to not get in trouble once that school year and being the best I can possibly be which is a remarkably pleasing thing to hear in a school you know the students who are minors smoke, drink, do drugs, carry weapons, commit crimes, etc. Theoretically nothing should have happened, especially not on that extent.

Out of that entire ordeal, that year the only thing I learned in school is that I am to be punished for the things I do rather than the education, parental, and police force doing what they are advertised to do; to be protectors and guide people into a positive path with integrity and respect in individuals. The school punished me when I didn’t fallow their rules instead of asking themselves ‘Why is this happening? What can we learn from this?’, My dad picked me up from jail with no words at all I couldn’t even try to get words out of his mouth, he never speaks, he never counseled me on a thing. The cops… well, they just threatened me whenever I showed any resistance at all and a female ‘official’ representative was shouting at me enough to make me cry, threatening to take me away from my home and put me in a school where students don’t get to go home afterwards all the while I’m handcuffed with my hands behind my back sitting in my chair and she had two police officers beside her as back up. I was in a such a emotional fit I shouted in tears ‘YOU CAN’T DO THAT!!!’ and like some textbook bad guy she responds ‘Yes I can and I will if you don’t behave!’

I beg to ask, who was behaving, the little ‘boy’ threatened by adults with guns and the power to be taken from his home who literally would have charged after her and kicked her solid (Tae Kwon Do is a kicking martial arts which up until this time I had learned for 2 years), or the lady and cops threatening to punish me for anything they deem inappropriate no matter how minute the behavior was as if I were some feral dog pissing on their carpet. They didn’t even tell me they were sending me to juvenile hall, they just said ‘get in the van’ and drove me away. I could tell by the unfamiliar route and location that they weren’t taking me home.

Stripped naked and told to shower in front of a guard using some smelly lice shampoo, dressed up in baggy kakis and a baggy orange shirt and put in a 10x6 (est.) cell with a cement block with a little foam mattress and no blanket and open (reinforced) window for three days (only because I was lucky otherwise a week+) by the third day I started having a severe emotional break down and having fears of being stuck with living with only guys and treated as one, branded as a criminal for life, another of 10,000 reasons for my family to –continue- hating me, fear of anyone other than myself, and fear of being punished for anything I ever do.

There after during probation the courts and officers treated me as if I were nothing more than a criminal who didn’t deserve any respect, sympathy, or understanding. If anyone wants to know what happens to people who fall through every crack in the social/developmental systems from early childhood can look at me as an example. I would have stayed had I accepted that as a lifestyle, as my fate/destiny for which I couldn’t change and simply became bitter towards the world. I can point out every crack I fell through and why, other people’s faults, what can be corrected in them in the system(s) in place, as well as what I did wrong on my end and what I could have done to prevent that.

I’m sure anyone who has been in jail for months/years could look at me and say ‘weakling’ etc and how easy I had it, and on a larger scale it’s true compared to the more long term unfortunate individuals; but the fundamentals of the entire event remain the same. And had I stayed in that environment, if I was put away for a year, I would have adapted, I may even have become more comfortable in my cell than in the real world knowing that people couldn’t get me from inside that room. You may have hated time out and sitting in that corner, but after 5 minutes I’m sure it was nothing but boring for you, not punishment, not educational, nothing but boring. The first five seconds you think aw crap and learn your lesson, by 5 minutes (5 days, 5 months, 5 years) of ‘time out’ you think ‘wow… that lady is such a bitch for putting me here’ and the longer you’re there the more you resent them.
š When I came back the fallowing year I had shut down completely emotionally and mentally from the entire social world, but I was growing angry and bitter and anyone who expressed any dislike for me I took every blow they had and returned the favor. I also tried so hard back then to forget as much of my past as I good, I tried to forget all of it, much of it I did forget but it was only buried. Whenever anything made me think of something negative in my life I’d divert my brain and attention and do something else. Generally unproductive things like videogamesBy the time I graduated 5 months early on Dec 2004 (class of ’05 out of 5 other students at the most) I was a social, mental, and personal wreck. By this time I have migrated down to my grandma’s basement where I spent my days wrapped up in a blanket crying in front of a computer and crying on the cold cement floor as I listened to sad songs wondering every ‘why’ in the book.But if you thought I was miserable then, you should have saw me the day a injured kitten I tried to save was found dead when I awoke one morning. Out of all those years of ‘education’ I was told one thing ‘Do what you’re told’ and it turned me into a robot when it came to anything I did for anyone. “I finished what you asked, what’s next? I can do it… I finished, now what? Sure… Okay now what?” Any work I did on my own became neurotic in their redundancy that stayed with me and trace amounts remain to this day.
š After some later event for a year of my life, despite having graduated on ‘good terms’ with the school as a role model I visited the school Jan 5th 2009 to see what has become of it and the students, to which I learned that in the time I was there, and the students who I graduated before, most smoke/drink/do-drugs/etc, many likely dropped out, one ended up –back- in prison (which I’m sure would have happened to me), and 3 have committed suicide. That’s out of 50 students max.Since my visit before I left to leave back to Los Angeles CA I worked out an agreement to come back as a guest speaker for the students to show them that they have everything it takes to achieve the same level of success I have reached and will reach, and all the potential to become far more successful than I could ever dream… And that they all have what it takes to do so even with the entire world against them. But I want to go a step beyond that. I want to provide the education that they deserve in these schools, the resources, support, and people needed to help them achieve anything. All I had was a VHS tape of a fake dream of mine I used to lie to myself just to run away from my problems, and 2 people to say ‘go for it’.
š From there I did a little bit of college to get the pre-requisite classes required for a college in Moorpark (L.A) California, called the Exotic Animal Training Management program. That's where I got a lot of my animal psychology experience as noted earlier. At this time I was19 and I went from my hometown of 3,300 people from a farming community in Illinois where my dad expected me to take over the family business of farming to drive 2,000 miles (exactly) to the Los Angeles area and northern suburbs and valleys.
š In the program I learned about animal behavior, animal psychology, basics of animal training, positive reinforcement, animal ethics, public relations, put on shows on stage for the public, learned falconry, worked with a Great Horned Owl, Harris Hawk, Serval, Sugar Gliders, Coati, and a Raccoon and also learned how to train rats to run through a maze. And it's worth noting that it requires you to be AT school from 7am - 4pm on average, 6:30 to 5pm average, my longest day at school was 13 hours from 6:30am to 7:30pm. Mind you we work weekends and holidays too, even if there are natural disasters we are there as long as the animals are there. I was doing that for 1 year.
š In the program despite being as happy as I have ever been, it was unsustainable, and the course was too difficult to simply will myself through, it got me through the first half but I ended up inevitably failing. What had happened is I was skimming by at the bare minimum level stressed out beyond belief with my academics and professional responsibilities as I worked out my personal and social gender and my desire to be a girl while I was in a difficult animal program from 6:30am to 5pm nearly every day all the time in a program of 10 guys (including me) and 90 girls, talk about breast envy… On top of that I lived with 3 other beautiful accomplished female roommates with 14 animals7 rats (part of a school project, 2 were mine)3 dogs2 cats (mine)1 rabbit1 snake+ visiting pets and guests in a single floor 4 bedroom house.I was utterly miserable I was actually a bit glad it was over when it was, I just didn’t want it to end the way it did for me… you’ll read about that soon. I was having car problems and couldn’t make it to school, forced to ride my bike at 6:15am 2 miles mostly up hill and a steep hill at the end since colleges love hills. I was throwing up from being sick and stressed out it was horrible. On my last day as a student (on top of ludicrous luck for the past 2 weeks before hand) I pulled over to the side of the road 1 block from school up the hill, got out, threw up, and kept going at 6:20am. I took two finals that day for which I lost my notes 2 weeks before hand (I wouldn’t find until 3 days after the finals). I was throwing up all through the morning while doing work to take care of the animals, I went through all my classes for the day, one class I had to get up to leave 4 times during the final to throw up, this class I passed. The other I was better health wise but failed the course and that got me kicked out of the program for a D grade.
š Okay a quick update to bring you up to speed about what happened before hand and how it flows into the fallowing events.1. one of my cats got the tip of his tail ‘de-gloved’ (all tissue removed from bone)2. my other cat got kidney problems from excessive stress and couldn’t urinate well and could die at any moment3. I lost all my notes for the entire semester of my dream school training animals two weeks before finals, and I didn’t find them until 3 days after the tests4. I failed my dream school despite trying so hard even with a crappy faulty car and physical challenges.5. I fell into a horrible emotional distress crying nearly all day everydayFrom there this is what happened.When I failed I conveniently got evicted from my residence and entered the start of what would become the worst time of my life. Note, at this time I had two cats, one physically injured who just had surgery and another that had kidney (stress related) problems and might die at any second, I just failed my 'dream school' and was evicted by my roommates who weren't even close to me but were all I had besides my cats, and on my drive home and before I got 10 miles away from my previous residence on a 2,000 mile drive to a home I didn't want to go to my car started having engine problems not to mention pre-existing and progressively worst transmission problems.That day I was evicted and driving away I also had a vet visit to take my cats to which when at the vet my cat started bleeding uncontrollably and they almost needed to operate on my cat (this was after my car problems started, during the vet visit I was fixing up and examining my car). Fortunately I got my cat back alive and started the rest of my trip. I got as far as Oklahoma City (Weatherford actually 60 miles W) when my car broke down for good.I got it to two shops and they said the entire car might have to be scrapped and at best even if something could be done they couldn't even look at it for a week. FORTUNATELY I had my bike with me so I scope out local hotels, none accept cats, cost of boarding them at the vet was too expensive, and the only motel that accepted pets didn't take credit cards and I didn't have enough cash. It was too hot in my car for my cats to survive so I felt it was safer to shack up in a motel that was abandoned 15 years ago, raided, thrashed, and every room except one was unlivable.The first night I stayed there I had 16 mosquito bights up and down my arms, not to mention the area recently experienced a massive flood a few days before I got there but the area I was in wasn't hit I don't think. I spent 3 nights in that motel with no power, water, etc with two cats (and actually two rats as well from my animal training class). On the morning of the 4th day my dad showed up to my delight and we moved everything into the SUV he borrowed from his aunt and we drove the rest of the way back home leaving the car there.Would you believe that's not the end? From there I spent every day working my butt off trying to find other roommates and get back out to CA ASAP and I was working with a RE broker to get a place I had been trying to secure since before I got evicted it didn't happen in time. Soon I found a person who would be my roommate and was going out to that way and I was really desperate to make things happen I let down my guard. When all was said and done I had a check in my hand sent by her (from another country where she currently was) I had to deposit her amount and send back the excess included by mistake (If you don't recognize the scenario it's a classic scam I was about to fall victim to), when I got to the bank 2 tellers told me they see major red flags and warned me not to do it... I didn't care I just wanted things to happen I was desperate.I was at home staring at the check, noticed the name and location of the bank and saw that had nothing to do with the individual, so I cross referenced the check verification number with the bank in New York City and they said it wasn't in their records, in other words fraudulent. So at that point I simply thanked the guy quietly, hung up the phone, took two steps into the kitchen stomped real loud and started shouting at the top of my lungs and crying. In this moment I decided I'd never be subject to environmental influences ever again so I made it mandatory that no matter what I would put my life in order, become stable, build a solid foundation, and achieve a state of success where I'd never experience anything in the first 20 years of my life all over again in any way.
š From there I made the goal "Get back to L.A CA ASAP by August 20th no matter what under the terms of finding an apartment under $1,000 per month in ____ locations that accepted cats." At this point it was August 5th, and I couldn't find any apartment that met my criteria then at the very last second I got a hit and they had a room for me. I faxed them a security form to reserve the apt, they accepted, and I literally drove out of IL 8pm August 17th Friday scrambling around making sure everything got together and every detail was completed and arranged and flew out of there with the physical application to the apartment in hand with deposit and rent in hand I didn't even have time to wait in the mail for it I had to be there NOW! On the way I passed through St. Louis, picked up my dad who's a truck driver who finished his route there, we drove down to OK together and got the car back, it had been repaired and was in good shape again. we traded off and dad took the car to Illinois and I kept his truck since it's more reliable. Note: I slept two hours total on the drive to OK when my dad was driving, and I took a 3 hour nap once we had switched cars. From 5pm (central time) Saturday August 18th to 4pm (pacific time) to Monday August 20 I drove without sleep (that’s 49 hours without sleep FYI truck drivers can only legally drive 15 hours and are required to take a 15 hour break to which I drove the rest) at 80mph to 90mph much of the way to LA without stops other than food/bathroom/gas. 2,000 miles in 66 hours nearly exactly. And to my surprised the management at the apartment I came to was closed at least 4 hours early! I got there 2 hours before they closed, and called leaving a message 2 hours before I arrived that I was almost there and never got a response. Oh boy I was looking for an ass to kick and I got a black belt to prove it. I used to think I was driving my truck the 2,000 miles, but in reality the truck was probably driving me because I was DRIVIN. Had I got here and not had the apartment worked out the fallowing day I would have just lived in the truck with my two cats and continued the future path as fallows in my history up to the present.
š Well all's well that ends well, things leveled out at that point. I secured my second chance at my dream school but fortunately wasn't accepted back in the first time. But in that time since I arrived, the first month I started hormone therapy to become a girl to start the most basic fundamental foundation we all need to succeed "Be who you are no matter what", to ensure I never had a repeat of the first 20 years of my life I need to secure my financial independence and sustainability so I started learning about money.... nobody had taught me a thing about it in the past this was make it up as you go.My very first search was on Wikipedia "Stock Market" and I read everything I could stock market related via Wikipedia in every detail. From there once I felt I had exhausted Wiki I devoured everything on the site Fool.com and what they had to offer, as well as many other sites that I could get my hands on. I wasn't just reading it, I was taking notes and saving information for quick reference on my computer in files which I still have to this day. Mind you the entire time I was doing this from Oct to February I didn't have internet at my apartment so I was driving around town with my laptop leeching off of any wireless I could from my truck and learning that way from 5pm until 3am nearly every night until my computer battery ran out. When it did I'd charge it at home and head back out. I did this in the cold, in the rain, late into the early morning, every time I had battery power.
š Eventually i felt comfortable with my knowledge enough to start up a Roth IRA, contribute 4K of a 10K inheritance I got from a relative who passed I never knew a day of my life and I kept the rest and/or experimented in some various stocks. Great timing huh???? CRASH!!!! Even still my IRA still has 4K in it go figure. The stocks? Eh they tanked but I did it to learn so I was expecting mistakes and you learn more from mistakes.
š By May I was living full time female with my new identity and name, new friends, new family, newfound happiness unlike anything I was experiencing at the time. Now it's so ungodly high when I'm sick and injured at the same time I still feel better than I did on my 'best day of my life' before hormones. And the hormonal changes came about so fast that my body had pretty much changed completely within 8 months of starting.

Since May I started became great friends with my only co-worker at the time, and her mom gave me various books to read and taught me about Robert Kiyosaki. The books she gave me were the fallowing:
1. Rich Dad Poor Dad - Kiyosaki (paper and audio)
2. Cash Flow Quadrant - Kiyosaki (audio)
3. Rich Dad's Guide to Investing – Kiyosaki
4. Why we Want You To Be Rich - Kiyosaki and Trump
5. Richest Man in Babylon – unknown
6. Millionaire Next Door – unknown
7. Who Moved My Cheese - Spencer Johnson
8. How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
9. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Steven Covey
10. And she also gave me access to her entire Choose To Be Rich coaching program with Audio and work book, I photo copied the entire work book and ripped the music from the CDs to ITunes for my own future reference and future study later on.
š Needless to say I devoured everything unbelievably fast and well, and I just didn't memorize this stuff, I comprehended it which is VERY rare for me and information I learn. I could apply it to my life in many ways and make choices based off what I knew. In my quest for more information and from what I learned Real Estate sounded like the most stable way to go and most feasible, especially with the market on a HUGE down turn I didn't even want to touch it. So Oct 1st I joined Rich Dad Real Estate coaching and smashed my head full of the information I was impressing a seasoned coach on their team and I would have seriously closed on a 19 unit apartment complex in Illinois from CA by January had all the dominos fallen into place.
š Well I moved into phase two of the coaching program (am still there as of now as well until July 1st 2009) and my coaching sessions are gone and I lost that drive I had. Because at first up until I joined Rich Dad it was all 'Self' oriented motivation, my will, passion, and personal greed but even though I was still poor at this point I was satisfied, just not sustainable. Once I joined Rich Dad coaching it my motivation was peer driven, driven by the people who kept me company, gave me meaning, support and encouragement, even if they didn't do anything to force me just their presence would keep me going.
š After two months of nothing/very little through Jan and February, I decided at the start of march that I needed to focus more on my personal foundation before continuing to grow, and in self reflection I realized I was lacking peers to give me such motivation to keep going. My first two heroes (Goku from Dragon Ball Z, and Rem [Note my name Remrie aka Rem] from Trigun) have become outdated. I have decided I need to focus on picking a few more personal heroes. I have a few on the list overall but I think my key ones will be Napoleon Hill, Gandhi, and Anthony Tony Robbins. Any other heroes I pick will be more specialized for a particular interest like Kiyosaki and Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford for business. Warren Buffet, Sir John Templeton for stocks, etc.
š And that's pretty much where I'm at now. I just need to start looking at their personal history because coming up I can sense the advent of a time requiring immediate, powerful and precise action. Because I'm running out of money, my foundation is complete, and the economy is prime condition (depending on a few things) for someone like me to start, and I am nearly done completing a rather complex fundamental foundation for the rest of my life whether I succeed or not.
š My immediate goals are to become successful and financially sustainable by real estate rental income, go back to the exotic animal college I failed and pass it, and head back to my school Project Insight to show the students where I have come from, what has happened to me, and how I managed to succeed and do my part to convince them that they have greater potential than anyone else to achieve anything they could ever aspire to in life with meaning backed by honesty and integrity by their own character for who they are as a intelligent individual. From there, just refine, repeat, refine some more, repeat again, continue refining, and repeat and in the process expand into other fields through other companies I will build and make successful.

List of Quotes by Remrie Arrie

“Can I save others when I’m the one who needs saving? I don’t know, but that doesn’t stop me from trying; and feeling like there is always someone who needs to be saved before me. Really makes it hard for me to accept help” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Imagine being everything you aren’t, and trying to become everything you are, all the while hating everything you are, and trying to avoid it as much as possible. That is my reality.” ~ Remrie Arrie (When I was a guy)

“At this point in time in my life, I don’t think… that I can make a wrong decision with my life… except for the decision not to do anything” ~ Remrie Arrie 9/19/07 (the day I started hormones)

“Never let your beliefs get in the way of anyone else’s” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Who we are doesn’t matter; it’s what we do that makes all the difference in the world” ~ Remrie Arrie

"If one chooses to live in a life of bliss that is deemed to be a life of sin, when one is a nice person who doesn't hurt anyone, who lives life to the fullest just as anyone else; only in a life of sin, should any mortal force them to live in any other way?" ~ Remrie Arrie

“If you could only Google one thing… and one thing only, knowing that it would bring you a result or answer what would it be?” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Good things don't always come to those who deserve them, that is why I’m not waiting for them to come anymore." ~ Remrie Arrie (Also see Jan 1st 2009 Newsletter)

“Is it possible for everyone to work to make everything better for everyone without being selfish?” ~ Remrie Arrie (Or better yet promote success in others to secure your success.)

“I am the sort of person who will take on the world in a blind rage, but change the world with open eyes” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I will change this insane world. Watch me.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Money can by happiness, but there may be some assembly required, and the batteries are not included” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I’m all about making big things happen. Are you going to make big things happen too or are you going to watch big things happen?” ~ Remrie Arrie

“The only things that get in my way are the things I let get in my way” ~ Remrie Arrie

“The only things that get in your way are the things you let get in your way” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Maybe we should force all political leaders to wake up in the morning and eat a bowl of 'Think Of The Greater Good O's' that has crunchy bits of orphans, gays, hospitals and schools, with marshmallow bits of money, laws, mansions, and the nation’s flag. And while we're at it we should force them to watch the poverty channel while they eat with a news paper from the Iliterate Timez on the table, with a tall glass of organic Guilt.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Friction is still friction, regardless of how much it slows you down; if enough friction exists it can stop time itself.” ~Remrie Arrie

“This message is brought to you by the color black: Black is that wonderful color that strikes fear into our hearts when we're alone, and at the same time, push our imagination and determination past the breaking point as we look into the sky. It can conceal all, including light, as well as you when you're lost and affright. It relaxes you when you fall asleep, and it will also be the last thing you will ever see.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I smile when you smile” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Whoever said ‘money can’t buy happiness’ never bought a tank of laughing gas” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Definitions and categorizations are for conservatives who aren’t comfortable in a world of people they can’t understand” ~Remrie Arrie

“It's my personal obligation to make sure all my friends are happy.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Someone once asked me “Why don’t you want to be a guy?” and I asked in return “Why don’t you want to stick your cock in a bear trap?” …They didn’t reply” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Failing school was the best thing that had ever happened to me” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Don't write your own bible, it'll only burn in hell along with its author.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Interact with your dreams” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Never hope, always expect, never just desire, always plan steps of action, never procrastinate, build productive habits, never say 'I tried’ and always say 'I'll try again'. ~ Remrie Arrie

“I want my midlife crisis to be a day at the beach with you.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Don't believe in just one god, believe in them all, and believe in yourself. If you do they will all work together to bring happiness to your life and look after you. Use them as a weapon, and they will turn against you.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I’m here, no need to be lonely anymore” ~ Remrie Arrie

"Alone at the beach with my CrystalHeart and my dad as he plays his guitar is all I could ever want. In that moment I am happy." ~ Remrie Arrie

“I always advocate the option of setting up a fighting ring and letting the leaders of the world fight out their problems themselves rather than using other people to fight their battles. That way we could get to watch them break a nail for a change. As a competitive fighter I believe in order to lead a nation you have to defend that nation yourself and stand on the front line every time you go into battle.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Most of the people I meet are meeting a TG person for the first time in their lives. Up until they meet someone like me face to face open as a TG they don't get past the idea of us being mythical creatures that frolic in the woods. I grew up in the woods; there are no transgenders in the woods…Except for me……And I moved out.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“A person who believes in god but doesn't believe in themselves is someone who doesn't believe in what that god creates.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“You can either feel bad about what others say about you, or you can feel great about the things you know about you.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Live free and be happy, if you are not living free and happy then you are not alive.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Define: Normal” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Tell me you love me and I will tell you I love you, show me you love me and I will show you I love you.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“All the poems in the world can't fix a broken relationship.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“History is always made today, what matters is what that history does tomorrow.” ~ Remrie Arrie

Creativity + Action = Fortune“There is an unlimited amount of creativity in each of us, our choice to act upon our creativity today determines how fortunate we will be tomorrow.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Boys are not complicated, girls just complicate things. Girls are not complicated, boys just don't pay attention” ~ Remrie Arrie

“What if..... the only 'what if' that existed was this one? What would become of all the others?” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Males need more support than they get, contrary to popular belief they are human too.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Preaching to me is just advertising. Want to show people you and your beliefs are pure and true, don't tell them, SHOW them.” ~ Remrie Arrie

"I'm a failure at life but very successful at living." ~ Remrie Arrie

“The only limits that exist are the ones you choose to accept" ~ Remrie Arrie

“Happiness isn’t what you make of it, it’s what you make of yourself” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I fallow my heart before the law” ~ Remrie Arrie

“The only reason I am the way I am is to be better than everyone has ever been to me.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“If you do not succeed at something, no matter what it is, the reason you fail is because you don't have the motivation to make it happen, or you lack the creativity to explore all your options.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“In order to present a model of success to others I must first be that model.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Take control of the wheel to your life, see yourself driving the fastest, hottest car on the road and burn out the competition who call your life a rolling rust bucket.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I want to save everyone” ~ Remrie Arrie (Talking in her sleep)

“Life is like a pair of underwear, if it stinks, change it.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“Be one year younger in mind and soul, and be one year happier than you were before.” ~ Remrie Arrie

“I do not cite a quote I do not live by” ~ Remrie Arrie



If you want information of where you can find me online just click below
· Sephroe@hotmail.com (Primary socializing email which includes both friends and business contacts)
· Sephroe@Yahoo.com (Spam, memberships, offers, newsletters, miscellaneous stuff) This one is well maintained so not many emails get lost
· www.Sephroe.Spaces.Live.com (One of my online profiles with some basic stuff and photos and the Success File)
· www.Tinyurl.com/Remrie-Facebook (Facebook profile if you use it, I have mixed networking and socializing there)
· www.Tinyurl.com/Remrie-LinkedIn (Professional Networking site)
· www.Tinyurl.com/Remrie-BNW (Better Net Worker business website)
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Photo taken next to the Convention Center (left) at
Temple Square, Salt Lake City Utah 12/21/08
































I’m not superman, I’m not super woman, I’m better than them both because I am human. And a human possess indefinite amounts of potential to create and do anything and everything beyond the imagination of super heroes. Their very existence is nothing more than a product of our imagination. By applying that imagination to myself I will do things Superman could only dream of doing; if he weren’t just a product of our dreams.